Sri Sarada Devi on Fault-finding

I tell you one thing—if you want peace, do not find fault with oth­ers. Rather see your own faults. Learn to make the world your own. No one is a stranger, my child; the whole world is your own.

To err is human. One must not take that into account. It is harm­ful for one­self. One gets into the habit of find­ing fault. … Do not look for faults in oth­ers, or your own eyes will become faulty.

I can­not see oth­ers’ faults. I am sim­ply not made that way. There are enough peo­ple always ready to crit­i­cize oth­ers. Sure­ly the world will not come to an end if I refrain from doing so.

Man finds faults in oth­ers after bring­ing down his own mind to that lev­el. Does any­thing ever hap­pen to anoth­er if you enu­mer­ate his faults? It only injures you. This has been my atti­tude. Hence I can­not see anybody’s faults. If a man does a tri­fle for me, I try to remem­ber him even for that. To see the faults of oth­ers! One should nev­er do it. I nev­er do so. For­give­ness is Tapasya.

One must live care­ful­ly. Every action pro­duces its results. It is not good to use harsh words towards oth­ers or be respon­si­ble for their suf­fer­ing.

Should any­one ever utter a thing that hurts another’s feel­ings? An unpleas­ant truth, though true, must not be uttered. For that grows into a habit. By indulging in rude words one’s nature becomes rude. One’s sen­si­tiv­i­ty is lost if one has no con­trol over one’s speech. And once a man casts all con­sid­er­a­tion for oth­ers to the winds, he stops at noth­ing.